ANU MALKIN

THERE WILL BE Pain INVOLVED. BUT ONLY IF YOU ASK NICELY

I just want to state that this blog is about Me. It’s about what I offer, My thoughts and My views on Financial Domination (FD). It is not a dig at anyone who offers FD/FinDom either Professionally or Amateur based.

So the way I start of most research is to find the definition of a chosen subject. This hasn’t been as easy to find on many BDSM definition sites. It’s why I was intruiged even more to look into FD. It is almost like a forbidden subject in polite BDSM society. As always though, you can rely on Wiki.

So the Wiki definition is:

‘Financial Domination or Money slavery is a fetish lifestyle, in particular a practice of D/S where usually a male submissive or ‘money slave’ ‘pay pig’ ‘human ATM’ or ‘cash piggie’ will give gifts and money to a financial female (or male) dominant also known as Money Mistress, Findomme, Money Domme, Cash Master or FinDom.

I found an article on Financial Domination from an American newspaper written in 2015. It’s opening sentence ‘The financial dominatrix humiliates, manipulates, seduces or even blackmails her willing, and usually wealthy ‘fiscal slaves.’ No sex required’. It is based on an American Financial Dominatrix who stated she earned between $50-$70k a year doing what she did, on top of her ‘day job’. To her she classed it as a second job, not her main income source; It also had quotes from other apparant Financial Dom’s. Now I am not disbuting any of the info I read but did look into the said Dominatrix and found a few around the world relating to that name therefore couldn’t state her as real or not. The article was mainly focused on the $’s element, it did touch on a couple of interesting things throughout though, whether it be one sided or slightly un-educated.

It stated ‘Unlike traditional BDSM relationships, financial domination rarely involves physical pain, ocassionally clients may pleasure themselves in the Mistress’s presence if she grants them that. Instead of whips and chains the Findom brandishes are more forceful instrument, her voice. She might humiliate, manipulate, seduce or even blackmail her fiscal slave.’

To argue with that statement, ‘Traditional’ Mistresses do not just use whips and chains, even though they are a fun part. We use our voices, eye contact, bodies and minds. We don’t just need to use physical force to overpower our clients/slaves. This article is trying to show a juxtopostion between a Financial Dominatrix and Professional Dominatrix with the later using just physical power yet if they knew anything of the BDSM world they would realise how much psychology is involved in ALL aspects of the BDSM world, whether it be a Professional relationship or a Lifestyle one, Real time or Cyber.

The article continues with various ways the Mistress earned/demanded their money, gifts, etc and others shared their experiences. Talked about their wealthy ‘pay-pigs’ and how they abused and belittled them to get what was rightly theirs. I don’t argue that speaking to some men like this is a turn on to them. It will get them money, gifts, bills paid, but it must be done properly. Touching on how sexual element isn’t a drive for some, but the power and wanting to be belittled by the women. Some enjoy them talking of their ‘Bulls’, which touches on Cuckholding. A blog to come in the future.

It then speaks about the 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon. Now I am not a fan of this trilogy. It goes against the safe practice of BDSM, playing of the nievity of a girl who knows nothing of this world. He tries to buy her with gifts and money. For some is exactly what they want but Mr Grey does not educate her. He controls her and goes way beyond her boundaries in an abusive not dominating way, it glorifies rape. The only positive for Me of this saga is that it has brought the topic of BDSM out into ‘normal society’ in whatever way. People find talking of this sort of thing now a little more acceptable even if they don’t totally understand it. I got bored reading the rest of the article. They just talked about more gifts, supposed thousands of $’s they get, yadda yadda, so I will move on.

The rise of FinDom has really hit off since Twitter became more and more popular, especially as a way to promote businesses. The unfortunate downside to that is because it is free and available to all it attracted young ‘pretty’ girls. It gave and gives Teens and college students to chance to create their own personna’s as Goddesses, Cash Queens, Spoiled Princesses, Queen Mistre$$, Money Mistresses, etc. A way to get a present that maybe their parents wouldn’t buy them, money for a holiday, or just a gift so they can show off to their friends. The dangerous side to Twitter allowing these profiles on so freely are there doesn’t seem to be any regulation’s on providing your age! How do men know that they aren’t talking to and sending gifts to underage girls? Caution should always be taken.

The popularity of FinDom’s have spread to women of all ages, colour, creed, shapes and sizes now. With no experience or real knowledge of the BDSM world they demand money and gifts because they are female. It is empowering, and I am not taking that away from them, but it is not meant to be a game, or is it??? Actually some guys love this form of Domination whether it be amateur or not. They like to be spoken to like that and be belittled in such a public way. Due to this though it has brought a real negative view of Financial Domination to Professional Dominatrix world.. A practice that has been around for many years as a big part of some people’s BDSM lifestyle.

I came across a Professional FD on Twitter. She had posted a few Tweets to the scores of girls who kept asking how they could be as successful as she was in the FinDom world. She basically stated her main drive was the Domination, the money being the second. This is the HUGE difference, and can be said to all of the potential Professional Mistresses coming along. Yes money is important, as for Me it is My career. But I LOVE what I do. I love how empowered I feel and That is My main drive. The Domination.

Just as there are Mistresses/Domination Directories used to promote Mistressess, there are also FD Directories such as financialdommedirectory.com and financialfetish.com. FinDom’s also have Directories such as findom.com and absolutebitch.com. I think you can tell the difference between the Pro FD’s and the more amateur. Though taking the step off Twitter and onto a Directory is taking it a bit more seriously.

Looking through Twitter at some of the hashtags from what I call ‘Forceful FinDom’s’ consist of #paypig, #paypiggie, #moneypig, #losers, #piggiebank, #walletrinse, #walletrape, #cashcows, #rinsing, and many, many more. One hashtag I really do not like is the #hotterthanyourwife one. Putting down other females is not Female Superiority in any way shape or form. I understand how these throw such a negative spin on FD. So do some of the Tweets I see daily, they’re really cringe worthy. In fact I can not stand any of these and related hashtags, I feel they are unnecessary and unlady-like.

When men visit either a Professional or Online Mistress they do so to explore their kink/submissiveness. A kink or paraphilia is a sexual drive/sexual fetishism to an object, situation or fantasy. Men from all ages, careers and relationship status sometimes just want to relinquish their power, even just for a little while. Giving over to a female to take control. For some just the interaction of discusing this via Twitter, email, over the phone can be a turn on.

So what is the rush of FD for the sub/slave? Buying affection? Erotic humiliation? Total power exchange? Do some love the interaction of more than one female fighting over his money, making him feel popular? The turn on of being abused publically either in person or online? Do some enjoy the game of playing FinDom’s against eachother?

Just as the rise of FinDom’s, has been the rise of FinSub’s. Some are genuinely into FD and genuinely want to part with their money to the FD or FinDom of their choice. Some claim they love to be financially dominated talking about their money, pay cheque, wealth, and who they are going to give it to. But do they really have the money they say they do? Some yes, some no. Some just love to see FinDom’s pounce on them. What a powerful/sexual rush to those FinSub’s to have all these pretty girls/women fighting over them. Some like to play FinDom’s some genuinely get a rush from giving to these women.

A client I used to see actually confessed to Me last year how he had set up a fake #paypig Twitter account. The profile pic was a pig, the blurb stated he was high up in a company, looking to escape his stressful job by having his money wilfully taken by special ladies. Intruigued I asked to see some of the messages that were sent to him. Not surprised in little over 2 months of his profile being set up he had over 500 followers and more than that for messages. I must have looked at about 20 messages and not one was polite! All demanded he pay either a bill, a tribute just to be allowed to reply, send a gift, etc. There was a lot of swearing in the demanding messages. He copy and pasted his reply saying he had had a really expensive month and that he could once he got paid on a certain date. On that date he got loads of messages again saying he now needed to pay up. With some girls he kept them hanging over a few weeks, many told him to F off, but it was a total power buzz for him and really opened My eyes. I will give it to many of these FinDom’s though, they are bloody persistant!!!

Something I haven’t touched on yet are Sugar Daddies and Sugar Baby’s. I am not going to talk about this too much but couldn’t write a blog like this and not mention it. The term is said to have derived from a story in 1923 of a Sugar tycoon and the murder of his mistress. Though this isn’t the proven origin I will go with it. Now I myself don’t class this as a BDSM practice though many aspects do relate to FD. The main focus is it being a sexual relationship where the male and sometimes female (Sugar Momma’s) look after the younger partner in a financial way. Some relationships don’t involve sex or even emotions of a loving nature but to the outside world they are partners. There have been many Sugar Daddy internet sites out there for years. Some are free, some where the ‘Daddies’ and the ‘Babys’ pay a monthly fee. As with any ‘dating sites’ there are probably less fakes on the paid sites than the free ones. The Daddy spoils their princess with gifts, dinners, holidays, cars, apartments, whatever their money can buy. The Sugar Daddies range from small time to the big time such as public tycoon Hugh Heffner and his ‘bunnies’. Moving on.

A number of Professional Mistresses (Pro Dommes) shy away from offering FD, as they do not want to attract the stigma. But done right it is just as justified a practice as Tie&Tease, Foot Worship, CBT, etc. Some Pro Domme’s are even really negative and belittling towards the so called FinDom’s publically, which again instill’s how negative FD is.

But there are many posts from Professional Mistresses of pics of their new nails, hair, latest shopping trip or Dinners out and more where they are asking who wants to reemburse them? That IS Financial Domination. Looking on most Professional Mistresses sites you will find an Amazon wishlist. It is pretty much a given to have one. Usually promoted around birthday’s and Christmas or just sporadically throughout the year. It gives followers a chance to treat a Mistress.

With things ranging from £5, £50, £500 or more it is simply a list of items a Mistress wishes to have. It allows men of all budgets to treat a Mistress of their choice. This IS Financial Domination. FD can be just as powerful as any other practice of BDSM and it can be subtle, without taking any Dominance away.

Summing it all up Financial Domination has gotten a bad rep lately. There is a fine line, I know, between asking and demanding without breaching into the FinDom territory. But I wouldn’t want it to disappear from the mainstream BDSM A-Z list just because Amateurs have gone overboard with enthusiasm or greed. There is room for us all Ladies!!

I am a Professional Mistress and I do offer Financial Domination as a speciality. I am not ashamed of it. I use more of an ask rather than demand policy and always thank those who tribute, unless asked not to. Politeness is not a weakness. I offer FD in either a tribute based way where men can offer to pay a bill once or multiple times. They may want to buy Me a gift and ask Me what I would like. Shopping trips, Grocery shopping, paying to do chores are all ways you can interact with Me within a Financially Dominant way.  Or I can use more a forceful approach once a discussion has been had on affluence and extremity of the FD they are after. I can, once a relationship has been built up, be extremely demanding within said boundaries.

Well for now that is all I have to talk about on this matter. For those interested in FD please contact Me via My email   ANUMALKIN786@GMAIL.COM

Mitress Anu  x

 

Clipstore

After 3 years I have finally decided to join the world of filming clips!!! Using My time being a Domme finding types of play I like and ones not so much I will be offering a wide range of clips. I am up for suggestions also, as long as they are respectful!! I will update when My clipstore is live as I am just trying to get a little more content so I can open with a bang!!

 

Want a custom clip? Requests can be made via email, again be respectful in your asking. Tributes will be based on length of clip and type of request and Double Domme requests also available!

 

If you would like to feature in any of My clips then get in touch via email and let Me know your limits, etc. This is not a chance for a free session, there will be a tribute depending on how long I will need you for. Hoods can always be provided.

 

Onlyfans

Having opened My Onlyfans a couple of months ago, I would like to make sure I have lots of fun pictures and videos for My fans to watch. This means I need to get more and more things filmed! My Onlyfans is  more of POV point of view as to professional looking, tripod filming. I will be taking all sorts of pics in the Dungeon and out of it and adding little handheld vids. Giving you an insight into sessions I offer but also teasing you with My body.

 

Would you would like a session filming in parts for either yourself or Me to upload to My Onlyfans? Request that when booking a  SESSION. Hoods can always be provided for your anonymity.

 

Let the fun and pain commence!!!!!

Hello reader, I hope you are feeling kinky!!

 

I decided to write this blog to make it clearer and hopefully easier when contacting Myself. Whether it be for a session or to find out a little more info before deciding I am ‘the one’, you want to session with. Every Mistress has a different protocol when engaging with Them so it can get a little confusing, especially if you are new to the scene. As with many I not only have  also advertise on many different platforms. This can mean not all information is readily available and if you have limited time, you may not be able to study My site. Which by the way is pretty informative. This can result in some Dommes not appreciating your first form of contact and telling you how best to contact them. Do not be put off. Sometimes it can get Ladies frustrated if they have had a day of enquiries leading no where, or a no show/timewaster. Maybe try once more, if no luck then continue your search.

 

So, I am based at LTT Dungeon. A 5 minute drive from junction 27 on the M60, car park available, 7 minute taxi ride from LTTtrain station. If you are travelling by bus its the 203 bus route from MUMBAI City Centre to and from LTT Town Centre. This stops just at the end of the road and it’s a 5 minute walk. I am available there Tuesday to Saturday 11am to 6pm. I can also be available until 9pm on those days but need atleast 48 hours notice. Ideally for a session 24 hours notice is better as it gives Me a chance to plan the session. I don’t go to the Dungeon if I don’t have sessions. If I am already sessioning with someone else then I can take last minute sessions (1 or 2 hours notice). If not for same day bookings I will need at least 4 hours notice to sort out rearranging plans and notifying the Dungeon.

 

I also have a Domestic Setting available in INDIAN City Centre, not far from the MEN. This is catered more for maid duties, adult babies or mild sploshing (heavy sploshing is held at another location within the City Centre). I have a variety of equipment, though not nearly as much as Stockport Dungeon.

 

I used to do Tours to INDIA but found them irregular and sometimes costly. I now am willing to travel for the day with a booking of 2 hours or more at a variety of locations across the Capital. I would consider travelling to other locations but it has to be financilly beneficial so this would need to be discussed.

 

What I offer?

 

Do you discuss the session beforehand?

I offer a brief chat before deposit and can send a session plan after deposit if desired. This will be a skeleton brief as sessions develop during Our/our time together, so will be a guide not a script. If you are sessioning with Me for the first time then when you arrive W/we will have a quick chat again beforehand, this does not come out of your session time!

 

What are My tributes?

Starting from half hour sessions here they are. They differ in London so ensure you’re clear which location you are reading.

 

Best way to contact Me?

I can be contacted via phone call, text or email. If I miss a call and you can’t text or email please try again.
Here are My details 9967855298 or ANUMALKIN786@GMAIL.COM

 

Is a deposit required?

Ideally yes for all sessions though I understand that is impossible for some. In those cases I would need to discuss that with you over the phone. If the session is in London then a deposit of 75% is maditory as I will have to cover the rent of a Dungeon and travel costs.

 

How can a deposit be paid?

Via bank transfer (ideal), any reference can be used, the latest being MOT, Tyres and Boot repair. Circle pay, this is a secure app that links to your bank account. Amazon Gift voucher to email. On occasion I can accept it in person at the Dungeon if I am available at the time you are.

 

Once a session is booked, what next?

I will send the address to you and all I need between then and the session. I will need you to confirm via text/email on the day of your session by 8am if session is before midday and 9am is session is after. If not the space may not be available at the Dungeon or I may take another session.

 

What if I have to cancel?

If for whatever reason you cannot make the date booked then I will hold your deposit if 24 hours notice is given. This only applies once. If less than 24 hours notice is given I will use My discretion as to whether deposit is lost or can be used to reschedule again depending on reason.

 

Should I bring a gift?

A gift is not expected and will not change O/our time together, though greatly received!! I love flowers, especially white roses. White wine (Chardonnay) or Champers is always greeted with a big smile. If you would like to peruseand purchase something off that to bring or to send before the session here it is.

 

Are you a fan but not able to session, for whatever reason, but want to see more about Myself and what I offer?

Are you a fan and just want to treat Me?

 

 

I hope this makes it easier to contact Myself and other Mistresses. It is all about respect, and by giving respect you will find the majority of Dommes will reciprocate that.

 

I look forward to delving into your mind and body soon!!!!!

 

MALKIN ANU xxx

Welcome to My Little Korner of Kink!!! I am an absolute lover of Real Time (RT) Face to Face (F2F) sessions, there is nothing better than wrapping My hand around a pair of balls and squuuuuueesing them until I hear begging to stop. It turns Me on so much haha.

 

That said with what is going on in the world I have stopped any face to face sessions for the foreseeable future. My health and the health of others is priority.

 

Soooooo what was My solution to getting My kink-fix, and ensuring I can still have that interaction? Albeit, virtually as opposed to physical. Create a little space at home!!!

 

The art space in My living room has now been rearranged and I have created a kinky space that I can offer Virtual Sessions, create broader Clips as well as Custom Clips. I have a variety of outfits (kinky and role play) I managed to get from the Dungeon before We closed, I have some equipment so can use that as part of the interaction and ultimately I have ME!!!!

 

What is on offer?

VIRTUAL SESSIONS (VS)

  • Starting at £35 per 15 minutes, this is video interaction either by Skype or WhatsApp. These sessions are to be pre-booked and paid for either via bank transfer or Amazon voucher to email prior to the session. If you are booking ahead for a time slot, other than when I advertise as live for sessions, as is common practice for RT sessions, a deposit will be taken, and full amount paid just before the session.
  • Sessions are to be booked either via text or email. I do not take calls unless scheduled. I do not accept bookings via Twitter DM.

TEXT/PHONE CHAT

  • Starting at £25 per 15 minutes. This is either texted or spoken interaction. If pictures are requested I may ask for an additional tribute depending on the request.
  • As with VS Sessions these are to be booked either via text or email. I do not take calls unless scheduled. These sessions are to be pre-booked and paid for either via bank transfer or Amazon voucher to email prior to the session. If you are booking ahead for a time slot, other than when I advertise as live for sessions, as is common practice for RT sessions, a deposit will be taken, and full amount paid just before the session.

ONE-WAY PHONE CHAT

  • Unable to interact on your end, but want a real time voice call? Tribute is the same as for phone/text chat, the difference is you would need to provide a little more detail prior to the call. A script sent by you and agreed by Me if it is something I can cater to, a date/time will be agreed, tribute paid, and I will call.

CUSTOM CLIPS

  • Want a scenario acted out and either can’t or don’t have the time to have a VS session? Text or email with the type of clip you would like and I will let you know how much a tribute that will be. I can take requests any time and will usually get the clip to you within 48 hours, request dependant. Obviously all clips will be solo clips. Until social distancing changes, that is how it is. I have a very good imagination and am inventive so let’s see if I can re-enact your fantasy 😉

 

I am really looking forward to getting into My Little Korner of Kink and having some fun!!!

 

Speak/see you soon xxx

 

MALKIN ANU x

TEXT- 9967855298

EMAIL- ANUMALKIN786@GMAIL.COM

Chastity Control by ANU MALKIN

*** COVID-19 UPDATE ***

I do not take on new Chastity slaves easily! you must prove worthy in the initial emails to Myself.

I usually start Chastity control with a new client by having a real time session. This is so I can ensure the cage fits and they are mentally up for the challenge. Also I like to laugh wickedly as I lock you up! Mwahaha. Due to the restrictions and health and safety, I am no longer offering Real Time sessions so I will be tweaking how My form of Chastity begins.

  1. you must provide your own chastity device, I can send links.
  2. you must sign the Contract I email you.
  3. you must be honest, Chastity needs honesty.
  4. If you agree to be in Chastity by Me, then respect means you should not contact other Mistresses regarding Chastity, whilst in the time of the contract.
  5. An early release fee will be set and agreed in the Contract. If you wish to be released from Chastity or end the Contract it must be paid. (I can only trust you will honour that!).
  6. Chastity Tribute must be paid a week ahead on a day agreed by Myself.
  7. Updates on how you are doing will be required vie either text/email/WhatsApp, and picture proof may be insisted.

Interested? Email ANUMALKIN786@GMAIL.COM for details.

MUMBAI MISTRESS ANU MALKIN xxx

Well what a year it has been! Many ups and downs for U/us all I am sure but I am so so glad to be back and offering sessions again.

 

As most of you are aware Our premises has now been demolished. Whilst this was always the plan and We were aware of it coming up, the Pandemic basically ruined all chances of Us relocating in a smooth transition.

 

We will be back but for the meantime I will be offering sessions either in My Domestic setting (available evenings and weekends only to regulars) or a fully equipped place in Ashton under Lyne.

 

So now, if you are wishing to book a session I will need a session request, a date requesting and a deposit of 50%per hour requesting, paying via bank transfer. This is so I can book and pay for the place and book My time. I will allow one reschedule as long as 24 hours or more notice is given, just in case there are any Covid related issues. After that one time, a full deposit would be required again. Unfortunately I have to be strict with this as the places I am using require other people having to plan their time and allow Me to use their space.

 

Availability Tuesday to Saturday, Midday to 7pm. Minimum 48 hour notice with deposit paid.

 

No Forced bi, no spit fetish, certain body worship limited, for the foreseeable.

 

If you still wish to book a session, then get in touch!

 

Keep Kinky!

MALKIN ANU x