ANU MALKIN

THERE WILL BE Pain INVOLVED. BUT ONLY IF YOU ASK NICELY

Bdsm Coaching

From BDSM to Coaching

In female dominated interactions, it is the goal of the dominatrix to guide the submissive through the experience in a safe non-judgmental space. Her guidance allows the submissive to let go and feel freedom, connect to their authentic self and grow from their experiences. Humanistic psychologist Carl Rogers proposed that in order for humans to bloom like a flower to their full potential, they require the right environment. This environment is one in which they feel safe to self-disclose, are accepted as they are, and feel they are being listened to and understood. He called these environmental requirements on the part of the practitioner genuineness, acceptance, and empathy respectively.

Just as the flower needs water to bloom, I as the dominatrix, coach and guide will be the water to nourish you while providing a safe space for growth.

 

Coaching programs are available in the following formats;

 

Coaching Origin

BDSM is a practice that allows us the freedom to explore our physical, psychological, emotional and spiritual selves. BDSM in a sexual context for which it is most known, allows exploration via erotic escapism and kink. BDSM in a coaching context allows for an individual to feel empowered to understand and claim their power, their rights and their agency. The range of BDSM activities is so diverse that a high level of communication is a necessary practice for healthy BDSM interactions. Clear communication allows those involved to be cognizant participants who have clearly negotiated their rights and power dynamics before engaging. The practice cultivates a safe and healthy space for an individual to identify and connect with their personal core needs.

 
 
 

Role Breakdown

In a Dominant/submissive (D/s) BDSM dynamic, the dominant takes over decision-making and attempts to elicit a response that allows the submissive to drift into a simpler state of mind. The submissive is safe to take a break from their social identity, responsibilities, and obligations and surrender to the dominant. The dominant represents the idea of a caring collaborator, akin to a behavioral compass that holds the submissive accountable and guides them to be the best version of themself.  

 
 
 

Potential Benefits of BDSM Practice

 
 
 

Psychological

  • Experience a sense of freedom
  • Gain experiences that serve as a model for coping with suffering in other aspects of your life
  • Re-enact and process past traumas
  • Identify and address possible trauma aftereffects that interfere with mental health
  • Practice exchange of power consensually
  • Identify how power plays a role in your daily life
 
 

Emotional

  • Explore your desires
  • Play out your fantasies
  • Feel comfort and relief by letting go
 
 

Physical

  • Understand your pain threshold
  • Experience sensations of varying intensity
  • Gauge your pain tolerance
  • May experience pleasure from the pain
  • Stimulate a release of the body’s natural stress & pain fighters – endorphins
 
 

Spiritual

  • Establish meaningful rituals and their importance in your interactions
  • Experience being present
  • Experience a unique exchange of energy
  • Take pleasure in the other person’s pleasure
 
 
 

Kink & BDSM Empowered Coaching will allow you to explore and develop yourself, while finding your mental freedom.

 
 
 

Services

 
 

Coaching areas of focus, include but are not limited to;

Female led dynamics | Exploration of feelings and experiences related to sexuality or sexual identity | Discovery of kinks/BDSM needs and fantasies | Novice BDSM exploration | Relationships and BDSM

Coaching programs are available for individuals, couples and poly-households.

*Couples and poly-household clients please note: the dynamic of your relationship is the primary focus. Individual sessions for each of you can be arranged to address personal concerns as needed. 

 
 

Sessions

 
 

General Coaching

Talk Session: Available In-Person, Phone Call or Online Call

Address the obstacles and issues that led you to seek coaching. Explore and evaluate how to move past conflicts and barriers in your life. Whether it is a personal barrier or part of a relationship dynamic, you will be provided with guidance and counseling to allow you the opportunity to learn, understand, and grow.

 
 
 

Play & Psychodrama Coaching/Facilitation

Play Session
Preferred In-Person
Phone/Video Session may be available in special circumstances.

Explore physical, mental and emotional obstacles related to sexual expression. Identify barriers to your sexual development and work on overcoming them via BDSM play therapy and role play. This allows engagement with your environment and leads to resolution of inner conflicts through practice. Identify past negative experiences, take control of them and turn them into positive experiences. This is a great method for couples to learn about each other’s sexual needs in a safe space.

 
 
 

Behavioral  Modification Training

Individualized Program
Available In-Person, Phone Call or Online Call for Initial Session

 
 
 
 

Includes

  • One (1) 60 minute session to review your desired modification, set goals, and define rewards and consequences.
  • Custom tailored eight (8) week program. This will require  tracking on your part outside of session. 
  • Four (4) text/email check-in exchanges which include; 
  • review of your tracking
  • proof of you hitting set markers
  • administration of established rewards and consequences
 
 
 

Please note:
Although not required, it is highly recommended to book phone, video, or in-person sessions during the 8 week process to supplement the email/text check-ins.

Fee will be adjusted if your desired modification requires less than 8 weeks.

Designed for those requiring concrete structure and accountability to change a specific behavior. Includes a custom program adjusted to the needed level of structure based upon review of desired accomplishments. Rewards and consequences will be established during the initial session. During these sessions you will be guided through training, and receive motivational support. You will be responsible for maintaining daily tasks and self-tracking outside of session time. Tracking allows a review and feedback of your efforts to alter the behavior of your own accord.